Grieving

<a href="http://www.billingsgazette.com//index.php?id=1&display=rednews/2004/07/29/build/local/25-children-disabilities.inc">'Dreaming new Dreams:' Parents of children with disabilities must grieve experts say</a><br />n<br />nI ain't no damn expert but I totally agree.<br />n<br />n<i>All parents of children born with disabilities go through a grieving process that never really ends, she said.<br />n<br />nWhen a milestone comes along – walking, talking or playing T-ball – that their child may never reach or may reach much later than their peers, they grieve again.<br />n<br />n"If you successfully grieve the first time, all the subsequent ones are easier and faster," she said. </i><br />n<br />nI just hope it gets easier and faster. It took me a long time to grieve for the missed oppurtunities for my son and I still do grieve. I finally realized that I needed to grieve and got through it but it wasn't easy. In my opinion you have to grieve and lose your dreams to accept the wonderful bounty you have been given, even if that bounty is more of a handful than you expected. It is the same type of grieving as if you have lost a child since in a way you have. The only good thing is you still have the child and just need to shift your dreams to a different area. I will never quit grieving for the missed oppurtunities but it is easier to accept now and continue on. <br />n<br />nI love my son so much, I just wish life was easier for him.<br />n<br />n<b>What we grieve for is not the loss of a grand vision, but rather the loss of common things, events and gestures…. ordinariness is the most precious thing we struggle for, ….Not noble causes or abstract theories. But the right to go on living with a sense of purpose and a sense of self-worth&acirc;